Girl struggling with rejection

Dear Rejection, 

Oh, rejection, how you’ve been a constant companion ever since I was a little girl. I remember in elementary school when people didn’t want to be my friend. I can recall times people rejected my ideas, thoughts, and dreams. This often left me feeling as though I wasn’t good enough to reach my full potential. 

As if, I should sit on the sidelines and allow others to reach everything God created for them to become. I’ve become accustomed, to rejection. I’ve become accustomed to sitting on the bench waiting for the day that I could finally take my shot at reaching the dreams that God placed in my heart for His Kingdom. Why have I waited on the bench?

Because I wanted people’s acceptance rather than receiving their rejection. Even when people don’t accept me, even when my ideas and opinions seem to not matter to others, I will find security in knowing that you rejection, don’t have the final say in anything regarding my life! 

Rejection, you failed me countless times. I changed my goals and dreams because of you. You made me feel worthless. Since I allowed you access into my life, I abandoned my own goals to seek acceptance from people who don’t have the ultimate say. Sadly, I even pushed away God’s plans for my life, because rejection, you made me believe that even God’s plans for my life we’re not acceptable. I believed your lies. 

You’ve let me down more than I can count, rejection. You’ve caused me to live in less than what I deserve, because I accepted you, rejection, instead of accepting what God said about me.

Rejection, You’re No Longer My Friend

Today, I decide to no longer allow you, rejection, to be my friend. I have cried numerous tears for allowing you to be by my side. You’ve been my excuse as to why I cannot accomplish certain goals, and why I have felt like I have to be someone outside of the way God created me. You’re the reason why I’ve lived for other people’s hopes and dreams for me, rather than chasing after God’s dreams for me

Now, I have to let you go, rejection. I don’t need people’s approval to do the things that God called to me to do, even if others don’t accept me. I’ve allowed you to dictate my choices and have given you permission to change my original design as a woman. Because of you, rejection, I have been afraid to reach certain goals, to try new endeavors, and to be the woman that God created me to be! Due to your lack of approval, I learned to be someone else for so many people. I’ve lived a lie, rejection. I have not lived to my full potential because I allowed you, rejection, to shape my future. 

Rejection, I have lived in your shadow for way too long. I accepted you, rejection, like rejection from God which caused me to walk away from the promises that God spoke over my life. This caused me to hide from Him and resist His love in so many areas of my life. Instead, I should’ve reminded myself of who I belonged to. You broke me down and I let you do it, rejection. 

From this day forward, rejection, I will no longer be a slave to your utterances. When I begin to feel you when I’m offering my opinions, sharing my goals and dreams, and even the words I write, I will wave at you, rejection, but I will not hold your hand, again. 

My Battle Plan to Overcome Rejection

I have to live my life not according to you, rejection. I am accepted and loved by the One who was rejected by many. In order to no longer invite you in rejection, I must create a plan on how I will continue to conquer you. This is how I will NO longer be your slave, rejection: 

  • When someone does not agree with my ideas, opinions, or my goals and dreams, I will not allow their disagreement to determine the decisions I make. I will seek God’s approval rather than others. This means if someone rejects something I mention, I can respectfully say, “thank you” for your suggestion. Saying “thank you” is respectful, but it does not mean I agree. 
  • In order to fight against the feeling of rejection, my sword must be the Word of God. Here’s what I will recite when fighting against rejection:
    • Romans 8:31, “What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?”
    • Luke 6:22, “Blessed are you when people hate you, when they exclude you and insult you and reject your name as evil, because of the Son of Man.”
    • Psalm 139:14-16, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.  My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.”
  • I will limit who I share my goals and dreams with because not everyone deserves to be in that space. That means, not everyone will have access to knowing my future goals. When a conversation comes up about my goals and/or dreams, if they are not on my dream list, I am NOT obligated to share. I will politely say, “I rather not share.”
  • When I begin to feel rejected by someone for sharing my thoughts or opinions, I will remind myself that they are not rejecting me as an individual, but that they simply don’t agree with what I stated.  Or, if I began to feel rejected for my personality traits, I will recite my affirmation statement: 
    • Christina, you are accepted by the High King who loves you! His acceptance is the one that truly matters. He formed you, Christina, with His perfect hands. Pleasing Him is your life’s mission. Don’t seek other people’s approval, only His.


Christina Leeane 

P.s. You’re no longer welcome! Please leave your keys at my door.